Some amazing [and utterly surprising] news!

The last time I checked in on this lovely site, the Mighty Milners, we were flying high. We had the school system down, I was knocking out school projects, dinner was made mostly on time. Things were looking good for the family, with the four [count ‘em, FOUR] Milners currently inhabiting Charleston.

And then … it all somewhat dramatically, came crashing down. Cue the famous two blue lines on the famous white pee stick. You could also cue a panic attack, the huge feelings of being overwhelmed, and utter, utter surprise. To be quite honest, it was not one of my finer moments. And I’m okay with that – to reiterate, a third bundle of joy was not on my radar.

For as shocking as all of it was, I told a whole lot of no one. And that includes Ryan, for about three days. I did tell finally tell him, over a dinner of tacos. We view seafood tacos as a balm for our soul. The spicy bam sauce did put us in better spirits, and we were able to grin, in spite of the unexpected news.

We held onto that little nugget of news, though, for over a month. In retrospect, I’m not sure HOW great we were at keeping it a secret, but we made no loud pronouncement to anyone. It was easy to hide from the family, within reason, because they didn’t see my ever expanding belly. As for the folks in town, well, I did what I could with stretchy leggings and sweatshirts. I essentially went into hiding. It was all I could do to get up on time to get Sophia to school, with homework done & a lunch in hand. Most of the time, I just rolled out of bed, wore a ponytail, and called it good.

After our visit with the new midwife I had to find rather quickly, the heartbeat was confirmed, the due date set, and it really became real [though, the morning sickness definitely was proving its own point]. Once I had a sonogram in hand, I felt comfortable telling immediate family. No one believed us, not right away. It took the proof in hand to really make the point to our family that this was not an elaborate October prank where we were teasing everyone.

We’re really having a baby.

In May.

The same month as our other two.

[You do the math.]

And, now, here we are – I’m almost 16 weeks along, with a May 2015 due date and only getting more and more excited for what having 5 Mighty Milners can mean for the world. It’s going to be amazing!

Just finish the job already!

This project has been waiting in the wings for far too long. Like, since this spring. Painters tape probably shouldn’t remain on an object for too, too long. And yet. There it is.

Sorry bookcase.

What I mostly feel bad about is Sophia. Every night, she goes to bed, looking straight at that bookcase, painters tape and all. I’m really not sure how she endured. I know Dr. M could not have. I’m guessing she takes after me in her lack of fastidiousness.

So, in the midst of an overdue knitting project, three books I should have finished, a crazy school week, blah blah blah, I decided to knock out the infamous bookcase. Sophia’s room is like this close to being done.

And, then … Gabe happened.

So, this is the bookcase before the walking disaster that is me getting distracted & my creative son finding easy access to a brush and paint.

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It is what is it … a bookcase that needed a second coat of paint and some edging. And then …

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Totally not cool.

If you saw me on Facebook, you knew I was not a happy camper. Saturday was a crap start. This just added the final cherry on it.

So, a job that should have taken a handful of hours with some dry time will take even more time. Whatevs. As Dr. M said, it’s an old Target bookcase getting a facelift anyway. You can always count on him to see the sunny side. Maybe by next week, I’ll have it done? *snort* We’ll see, friends, we’ll see.

Any DIY jobs gone awry? I’d love to here your stories! Post ‘em below and happy Monday!

#FridayReads & WIPs

It’s time for the weekly round up! I got a little flustered in my goals. But you know, what’s new? I do it to myself. I checked over two dozen books out at the library a few weeks ago. Go figure, I’m still in the midst of them. I’ve been doing my darndest to knock them out, but there aren’t enough hours in the day. I found out that three books couldn’t be renewed because others had placed holds on them. It set me up for utter failure. I have one I could finish tonight [i.e., The Book Thief], because it’s YA and I can just listen to the baseball game while Dr. M is out devouring yummy seafood. We’ll see – my bed also looks lonely and I might have to doze off in it.

The other two novels are not “cramming in” novels. They were both solid looking, and I didn’t want to short change the experience. So, I’ll return them and request them at another time.

Still, I finished a good deal. I’ve been working on The Warmth of Other Suns. Friends – there are no words. It’s amazing. Pick this up! A macro and micro look at The Great Migration, and an inspection on how the United States is still [STILL] wrestling with the aftermath of slavery. I’ll freely admit, I have to read it in small chunks because some of the brutality of Jim Crow is overwhelming. Still, a must read.

Sophia and I finished Little Farm in the Ozarks, the second of the historical fiction series of Rose Wilder. I read The Secret Keeper by Kate Morton, a mystery novel based in England but traverses all sorts of time and location. It was wonderful, and I read it in a day, it was that captivating. I also finished One Plus One by JoJo Meyes. This I picked up because I had read You Before Me; please know, you will bawl your eyes out on that one. One Plus One was good, too, just in a different way.

The other novel I stumbled upon this week was The Invention of Wings by Sue Monk Kidd. I grabbed it because it was the NYT Bestseller’s List, and thought, “Why not?”

Why not, indeed? It turns out that the heart of this novel is set in Charleston, SC. Ahh, caught your attention, didn’t I? It’s about the abolitionist & feminist Sarah Grimke, and a historical fiction read on her evolution of coming from the upper caste of Charleston society to a fuller understanding of how vile and obscene slavery was. She eventually turns Quaker, and is a speaker and writer against the institution of slavery. Of course, my interest is peaked – it’s set in a city I’m slowly beginning to call my own, wrestling with a topic that I don’t think even the city itself has come to terms with, and is highlighting an obscure figure in history, Denmark Vesey, who as a free man attempted a slave revolt and paid with his life. Handful “Hetty” Grimke’s parallel story as Sarah Grimke’s slave is riveting, surrounded by her mother, Vesey, and her sister, Sky. It can be a hard read at some points. Hmm, but that’s the point right there, isn’t it?

*Just a side note: A few of these following novels came from The Modern Mrs. Darcy, and her wonderful Summer Reading List; see here: http://modernmrsdarcy.com/2014-summer-reading-guide/ . The amount of work this blogger has done to give her readers a wonderfully compact yet diverse list of reading material is incredible. Based on her recommendation alone, I added all of these to my own To-Read list and am slowly working through them. Trust me, there is something for everyone here!

Friends, all of this, thanks to the local library. Oh man, do I love our branch?!

All of this, thanks to the local library. Oh man, do I love CCPL!

As far as knitting goes, I’m honing in. I have a tendency to write and DO ALL THE THINGS! Sometimes, it pays off. Other times, it leaves me incredibly overwhelmed and feeling like I’m falling behind. This last week, I just focused on one major thing that seems to just take forever. It has an official end date, and has to be ready to be shipped out at a certain time, and I just need to focus. So, I’m doing that. I finished Dr. M’s other tie, and then said “No more!”

You know, until next week.

I’ve also been checking out the dish cloths on Knit Picks; they’ve been posting free knit patterns, and in the effort to learn new patterns, I’d been practicing on those. I finished the “Pip Stitch” one this week. I’ll have to say, this is my favorite one by far. It has grooves to actually clean, super cute, incredibly practical. I might just stop and make all my dish rags like this from now on.

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What did you all read out there this week? Given my wait lists at the library and the ever changing NYT Bestseller’s List, I know there’s been some serious reading going on – let me know what it is!

The week, in recap

How is it that a short, holiday week can just seem even more busy? No worries now – it’s Friday, meaning pizza & drinks all around!

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It was delightful. I’d kind of forgotten that I liked pepperoni pizza, what with us mostly making cheese & sausage. We’re liking the pizza crust more and more. There’s been a few times when it’s been too … doughy. Blech.

We’ve fixed that problem. It’s now crazy delicious.

Even with Gabe pulling all sorts of crazy hours, I did manage to get a few things done. I finished a knitting project. Dr. M was excited.

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As soon as I was done with it, he threw it on, and then rocked it all day. A fellow friend requested one, which I feel like is high praise. And maybe he’ll get one, just for the compliment.

I’m in the midst of a couple different WIPs, including some gifts & dishcloths. I am not if anything but practical and pragmatic.

#FridayReads is happening, too. Look at me, being all on time and whatnot.

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I decided a few months back I really could read 100 books this year. Maybe it’s crazy. Still, it’s beauty of the library & blogs with amazing suggestions. This week, I’m trying to finish up some oldies, but goodies, including The Problem of Pain, Notes from a Blue Bike, & Evensong. I read a wonderful memoir/cookbook, The Sweet Life in Paris, and another memoir, but with baseball (squeal!), Wait Till Next Year, by Doris Kearns Goodwin. It was delightful, and I bawled at the end. Combining the death of her mother & the Brooklyn Dodgers leaving for California was about the saddest thing I’ve read in awhile.

We’ll finish off the week with our standard Friday Night Movie Night – we’re in the midst of the Marvel series, with Iron Man 2 up for tonight. With that, I say adieu!

Ready? Reset!

And here we go – Monday. Everyone gearing up? We are too, with plenty of coffee in hand.

To be quite honest, I’m looking forward to a fresh week. I kind of lost my bearings late last week, some things didn’t get finished, groceries weren’t bought. Well, some groceries were bought. They just didn’t last very long. And all of the sudden, Costco is still calling my name, and I really don’t want to go on a holiday. So maybe, I just won’t.

We’ve been at the school gig for two weeks now. We’re a bit sleepy. We’re grateful for Labor Day. My kiddos and I will honor previous unionists & dedicated American workers, while sleeping in and staying in our pajamas all day long. And yes, I fully understand the layered ironies here.

The kiddo starts art classes this week. We found a new location, and I’m eager for her to get started with some actual art instructors. We had her signed up last year, and she came home brimming with eagerness, new ideas, and the desire to decorate her room with amazing pieces.

And then they moved. We were sad. Very, very sad.

The old place moved across town, and as much as she loves art, I couldn’t justify an hour & half drive for 45 min of instruction. Then, I used the good ole internet, and found a new place close to her school.

Perfection!

I’m sure we’ll have photos of her amazing work.

The toddler continues on in his crazy antics. Bonkers, this kid, bonkers. I have yet to meet a more tactile, extroverted kid. He’s a lover, that’s for sure. He’s still bonkers. He still clears my kitchen cabinets out, my pantry out, flushes the toilets nine times a day [for no reason, other than he can], opens the dishwasher [for no reason, other than he can], and is just in general, chaotic nonsense.

But then …

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I mean … come on. This. Kid. Meltin’ hearts, daily.

What’s going on in your lovely weeks? Vacation time? Work time? Everything in between? Leave a comment below!

Looks like we made it [a new iPad cover, that is]

You know those weeks where you have wonderful, great intentions and silly life gets in the way of you accomplishing a million, gazillion things?

That was this week.

In the win column, Sophia started school, had a wonderful week with her new teacher, and I got her to school on time. Yea!

In the “meh” column, Gabe is [still] working on two big, fat molars, we think he’s sick with something else a big more dramatic, and due to both of the previously mentioned issues, decided to pull a handful of midnight wake up calls.

I am a horrible, rotten person without a full nights sleep. Add that sound reason to the ever growing, why we are not having anymore children list. *Full nights of wonderful, glorious sleep* Done.

So, the house has gone to rot. Thankfully, Dr. M loves a clean house so he steps up and does dishes and picks up and all the wonderful things that pile up quick with four humans. I decided to knit anyway my frustration and tiredness, and make a couple of things for myself.

They don’t mention when you start a new hobby that people will really, really want them to knit you things. So you make blankets and hats and scarfs and everything else for everyone else, and months go by and other people have things that you made, and you have none.

It’s all good. I just wanted something for me.

I decided I wanted a new iPad sleeve. The one currently in use is fine. It’s black, it holds the iPad up when needed, it’s utilitarian. Did I mention, it’s … fine?

Mine might be a bit less ‘useful’, but it looks nice. I also learned how to Seed Stitch appropriately; I had learned the basics of the stitch a while ago, but not the little things that make it looks seamless and nice and cozy. Also, glass cover – protected. That’s all that really matters.

I started with this basic pattern, literally called Simple iPad Cover [http://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/simple-ipad-cover]. It’s stockinette, it has no flap, and is easy to knit up.

Unless you try to do it late at night, mess up a row, not realize it, and then keep moving on. So, then you’re frogging and you’re frustrated and you give up.

The next morning brings wonderful things, though, like the idea of making it with the Seed Stitch. So bumpy, so stretchy. So adorable.

You’re going to work the front of it first, but not know how to change colors, so you’ll have bumps in color change rows. And that’s … okay. But as you go further along, you’re not satisfied. Not frogging unsatisfied, but unsatisfied. So then you’ll google around, and find a way to do it better. [See this lovely video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KyrS6drPZtE%5D

So you’ll go along, and realize you also don’t know how to appropriately bind off when knitting in Seed Stitch. So, you’ll google things again, and find the best way [See also, this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z41dK7TSvWk%5D

You already know how to knock out buttonholes, but you’ll watch the video over and over to make sure you really know how to cable cast on. And you do. Yea! [See this, if you’d like: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EY4vBzLo-Xs%5D

And after a couple of days, you’ll get this …

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See what I mean, about the bumps? I’m not super worried about it, but I knew there could be better. And I was right!

I’m mostly impressed with myself. Considering I’d severely adjusted a pattern, kind of winged it, and you know … novice knitter and all.

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And there it is … knitting one row before beginning the seed stitch pattern worked. Perfect!

And so, there it is. A new iPad cover, a happy first grader, and an almost better toddler who is in love with modern medicine & ibuprofen. Anything creative going on out there? Anything you’d suggest on knitting? Throw it at me, and feel free to comment below!

Fresh Starts

‘Beginnings could happen more than once or in different ways.’

- Rachel Joyce, The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry

 

It’s been a bit quiet over here for a while. For a long time, I wasn’t sure what I wanted to say in this space, to be quite honest. Even now, I’m still wrestling with what my voice will sound like, look like – I’m finding I’m more comfortable with the thought of that, and accepting that it’s totally okay to not have all the answers for how the blog should look. I tend to not do something [okay, a lot of things] because of my ever present fear of failure, rejection and potential humiliation. I also absorb styles, voices, templates, and other blogs m.o.’s, to the point that I’m not sure what is my voice as opposed to a parroting of someone else. So these are baby steps, to restart something creative in my life and do it just because I want to, to see what’s really in my soul and thoughts.

I feel like one reason why the blog stumbled a bit last time was due super specific kiddo posts. That is, after all, where the idea for this space started, due to our major move. But one kiddo is old enough to be aware that social media exists, and rather consistently will only grant permission for a photo with the caveat of “But don’t post it! Wherever you post it to, don’t do it!” [Even that, she probably wouldn’t love that I just shared]. I do respect social media autonomy. And her autonomy, just in general.

Beyond that, my life is more than just the kids.

Ha! Ehh … sometimes, anyway. I like to try and convince myself of that.

As I continue, they’ll be around, too, but I am going to free up space for what’s going on with all four of us and not feel like I have to box myself in. Do I want to write about knitting? Cool – that’s what I’ll do. Do I want to talk about the thousands of books I read this year? Awesome – there will probably be some really bad Instagramed photos of their titles. Will I make you totally jealous of my new-ish location with beach photos? Definitely. Do I want to throw up a dozen photos of the kids, while I’m at it? Totally [with permission, of course].

Will I also talk about world topics, national & local drama, or whatever else I’ve been mulling over in my mind? Probably. Potentially yes, anyway. Will I talk about things that I’m interested in, but maybe don’t know a ton on? Yes – hopefully with humility, tons of questions, and a smidge of wisdom, with the hope that the wisdom will only grow.

Whatever this space ends up looking like, I’m hoping you enjoy the journey! Also, pictures of the kiddos. Because let’s be honest, they’re cute stuff that I can reel y’all back in with! [And yes, she approved of the photos this morning, knowing they’d be widely dispersed!]

Also, come on? How do you not share this one? A mischievous pair, these two.