“we cannot understand. the best is perhaps what we understand least.”
– c.s. lewis, “A Grief Observed”
Friday was a sad day for the Applewhite family. we were all notified in the middle of the day that Grandma wasn’t doing well; she had been in and out of the hospital for oxygen issues, and we thought it might be just another quick visit.
sadly, it was not. she passed away that evening, surrounded by her kids and kids-in-law. it was startlingly fast, and I know everyone was grateful they took note of the urgency in the medical staffs voice to be by her side. my parents made the trip down to Wichita with urgency, and her son and daughter in town where there for her, as well.
I had just received a letter from her, not two days before. she was sad – she had recently been moved from her retirement apartment to the skilled side of her community; she had to give up her kitty, and was sad about the adjustments. she had said she would be fine, and move on. my response was half-written, and not yet mailed – feeling sorrow for such a big move and sadness for losing her newest companion, cutely named Kitty.
personally, I’m incredibly grateful I made time to see her in July. while visiting family & friends in KC, my mom & I drove down to Wichita for an afternoon lunch and visit. she met li’l G for the first time, seeing him in all his crazy toddler wonder; she saw Sophia, growing into herself and producing incredible art; I got to see her for the first time in almost two years before I drove back out East. we spoiled ourselves and grabbed NuWay, with their horribly-delicious-but-so-awful-for-you burgers & fries. [worth it]
if you’re in Wichita this weekend, her service is on Saturday. if you’re not, I’d appreciate it if you’d keep my dad and family in your thoughts/prayers/good wishes. below is her obituary, and service information. feel free to send some love her way, to my family, and her friends.
“do not let your hearts be troubled. you believe in God; believe also in Me. My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? and if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. You know the way to the place where I am going.”